What Money Is Actually For (A Holiday Reminder)
After years of building financial plans for high-income families, one thing has become crystal clear:
The biggest regrets aren’t about investment returns or tax brackets.
They’re about time, presence, and missed moments.
As we approach the holidays, it’s worth pausing to remember what money is really for. Because somewhere along the way, many of us lost the plot.
Money became about optimization. Account balances. Beating benchmarks. Constantly asking “Am I ahead?”
But none of that is the point.
Money is the tool - not the destination. And the holidays are the perfect time to remember what we’re actually building wealth for.
Let’s dig in ↓
Money Is a Tool, Not the Destination
Somewhere along the path of building wealth, many high-income professionals fall into a trap.
Money becomes about the numbers themselves. The portfolio balance. The net worth milestone. Whether you’re “ahead” compared to some arbitrary benchmark or peer group.
You find yourself checking account balances constantly. Obsessing over every market fluctuation. Optimizing every dollar with the intensity of someone preparing for war.
And in the process, you lose sight of why you started building wealth in the first place.
Money isn’t meant to be accumulated for its own sake. It’s meant to be used as a tool to create the life you actually want to live.
The Four Things Money Does Exceptionally Well
At its best, money serves four fundamental purposes. Everything else is noise.
1. Money Buys Time
Not in some abstract philosophical sense - in very concrete, practical ways.
It buys time by allowing you to work fewer hours or retire earlier. It buys time by enabling you to hire help with tasks that drain your energy. It buys time by creating financial independence that lets you choose how you spend your days.
The highest-ROI use of money isn’t maximizing returns. It’s maximizing time with people you love.
Fewer work distractions during dinner. More shared meals around the table. More presence during conversations instead of thinking about the next meeting. Fewer “we’ll do it next year” moments that turn into never.
You don’t get these years back. Your kids won’t be this age again. Your parents won’t be around forever. The people who matter most won’t always be available.
Time is the only asset you can’t earn more of, and money’s primary value is its ability to buy more of it.
2. Money Creates Memories
Most people don’t remember what they were given for the holidays five years ago.
But they remember what they did together. The trips. The traditions. The inside jokes. The annual rituals that become family lore.
Experiences compound emotionally just like money compounds financially. That family vacation creates stories that get retold for decades. That annual tradition becomes the thing your kids recreate with their own children.
The $3,000 trip to visit family might not seem like optimal use of capital compared to investing it. But the memories created - and the relationships strengthened - generate returns that don’t show up on any balance sheet but matter infinitely more.
3. Money Reduces Stress
One of money’s quietest superpowers is stress reduction, and nowhere is this more apparent than during the holidays.
Emergency funds mean unexpected expenses don’t create panic. Lower debt means less financial pressure during expensive seasons. Margin in the budget means you can be generous without anxiety.
Peace of mind during the holidays is worth more than any gift you could purchase.
When you’ve built financial stability, you can actually be present during family gatherings instead of mentally calculating whether you can afford everything. You can give thoughtfully without keeping score or worrying about your credit card statement.
This doesn’t mean excess or extravagance. It means removing financial anxiety from the room so everyone can focus on what matters - being together.
4. Money Expands Your Ability to Give
Financial stability creates the capacity for generosity that extends beyond your immediate family.
Money allows you to support causes that align with your values. To help families in your community who are struggling. To be generous without keeping score or calculating what you’ll get in return.
Giving reconnects money to meaning. It transforms wealth from an abstract number into tangible impact.
During the holidays especially, the ability to give thoughtfully - whether to family members, friends, or charitable causes - is one of money’s highest and best uses.
Providing Doesn’t Mean Excess
There’s an important distinction worth making, especially for parents worried about “doing enough” for their kids during the holidays.
Providing for your family doesn’t mean extravagance or excess. It doesn’t mean the most expensive gifts or the most elaborate celebrations.
It means stability. Thoughtful generosity. Removing financial anxiety from the room so everyone can be fully present.
Kids don’t need extravagance. They need presence and consistency. They’ll remember whether you were engaged during the holidays, not whether you bought them the trendiest toy.
The best gift you can give isn’t found in any store - it’s your full attention, your time, and your genuine presence in the moment.
Purpose Creates Better Financial Outcomes
Here’s something I’ve observed working with hundreds of clients: the people who maintain the clearest sense of purpose for their money tend to achieve better long-term financial outcomes.
This isn’t some feel-good platitude. It’s a practical observation about human behavior and decision-making.
When you have clear purpose - when you know exactly what you’re building wealth for - you make better financial decisions. You’re less likely to chase speculative investments or panic-sell during downturns. You stick to your plan because you understand why the plan exists.
Clear purpose leads to better decisions, which leads to more sustainable financial plans, which leads to better outcomes.
Meaning isn’t just emotionally satisfying - it’s an underrated risk-management tool.
The Question to Ask Yourself Before Year-End
As we approach the end of the year, here’s the question worth asking yourself:
“Is my financial plan creating the life I want now - not just someday?”
If the answer is no, the plan needs adjusting.
If you’re optimizing so aggressively for future financial security that you’re missing present moments with people who matter, something is off balance.
If you’re so focused on the destination that you’re not enjoying any part of the journey, ask yourself if you’ve lost the plot.
This doesn’t mean abandoning long-term planning or spending recklessly. It means ensuring your financial strategy serves your actual life goals, not some abstract notion of “more.”
What Wealth Is Actually For
Build wealth. Save aggressively. Invest wisely. Optimize your taxes. Maximize your returns.
All of that matters. All of that is important.
But don’t lose sight of the actual goal: a life well lived, with people you love, doing things that matter.
The numbers on your balance sheet aren’t the point. They’re the means to an end -time, memories, reduced stress, and the ability to be generous.
As you gather with family and friends this holiday season, remember what you’re really building wealth for. Not the milestone. Not the benchmark. Not the comparison to others.
For moments like these. For presence. For the ability to be fully engaged without financial worry. For memories that will compound long after any investment return.
Money is the tool that enables all of this. Use it accordingly - especially during the holidays.
Happy holidays, and see you next week.
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Thank you for this value centered article. It is a reminder to all of us about the way money when put in perspective can support how and where we spend our time, energy and attention which can make for a fuller and richer life.